Brilliant Women Lead: Step Into Your Purpose by Going First
One of the lessons Trailblazers learn is the priority of purpose.
When you have a vision, a calling – it is tremendously hard to try to quite your purpose in life. But it’s also hard when you have to be the one in the front. When you have to step into the role of pioneer and not just blaze your own trail, but a trail for others as well.
Early in my entrepreneurial journey, I would complain to my coach that I didn’t have a role model for what I wanted to do. I spent so much time looking outside of myself for guidance. One of the things I’ve learned (and now own) about being a trailblazer is that we have to be our own guides. Yes, we accept wisdom from those that pour into our lives, but we also have to trust our intuition and forge a trail through trial and error. It is lonely, it feels uncomfortable, there are sacrifices that will be made, and even relationships lost. But the reward for those willing to be the Trailblazers they were destined to be, is so worth it.
If You Want to Lead, You Have to Go First
My home life
is centered around the journey of parenting a strong-willed preteen! Every week I am amazed by how much she teaches me about myself. My impatience with myself shows up in her self-criticism. Her need to be right, checks my ego. And her love of daydreaming reminds me to keep dreaming.
There are lots of life lessons. There are also lots of business lessons. One of those lessons is that I need to go first. Think of this as a twist on “Do as I say, not as I do.” That phrase doesn’t work with kids and it doesn’t work with clients.
As someone who teaches, it becomes really easy for me to explain how things work. But in order for me to have authentic impact, I have to focus my teaching on things I’ve experienced. We tend to assume that just because we’ve learned something that qualifies us to tell other people about it. Have you ever been able to tell people about something you’ve learned? It’s great sharing that information, right?
What actually accelerates people getting results from the information we give them, is that we have had an experience beyond information.
A perfect example: how can you confidently guide clients to raise their rates
, when you haven’t experienced raising your rates to what you are really worth? Or how authentic is it for you to complain about people not wanting to pay your rates, when you have been unwilling to invest in yourself at a higher level?
If you want to spark real change in the people you have been called to serve, you go first – lead.
Remember: There are people that can’t step into their purpose, until you step into yours.