“I just need to get out of my own way.”
Have you ever said that before. Maybe you didn’t actually say it but you thought it to yourself.
Most people see the title of this post and do one of two things:
Then there’s You. The purpose-centered entrepreneur that will read this entire article even if it makes you uncomfortable. Even if it calls you on your bullsh**. Even if it makes you face a reality that you’d rather not acknowledge.
This post is the second post in my mini-series on things I had to unlearn in the last year so I could move my business forward.
Growing up, many of the boundaries that shaped my life were connected to fear. Out of fear of being punished or spanked, I did what my parents told me. Out of fear of going to hell, I did what the pastor told me. Out of fear of being threatened and teased, I downplayed how smart I was. After years of being afraid of other people’s responses, it’s no wonder that I began to create my own fear-based boundaries.
These boundaries were comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. They were comfortable because it’s what I was used to. We have a way of learning how to be satisfied with staying in the lines, even if we don’t like the picture the lines make. Once we acknowledge that don’t really like the picture, that’s when things start to get uncomfortable.
Once I became aware that my own fears and inner gremlins were creating boundaries from me that kept me from pursuing my purpose, it was hard to settle. The gentle nudges from the universe, the synchronistic conversations and opportunities – everything in my world pointed to coloring outside the lines. The only thing standing in my way, was me.
Bright women bound by fear, make excuses for why they can’t breakthrough the lines keeping them from where they want to be.
Brilliant women do the inner work that allows them to get out of their own way so they can break through the line and step into their purpose in life and business.
When you look at your life, what you are attracting, and the results you are getting – are you bright or brilliant? You can have the best ideas and intentions for making your business grow, but if fear is driving you to stand in your own way – you won’t get very far. And chances are that any progress you do make, you will sabotage.
There were three things that helped me break away from my list of fears and get out of my own way – three things I still go to when a self-imposed boundary challenges my next step:
Sometimes the busyness of business can be overwhelming. If I am not careful, I lose touch with why I am doing the work that I do. The more we step out into our purpose, the more we need the strength that can only come from having a solid spiritual foundation. When I think about the people I am called to serve, staying in the lines means less impact. There are people that can’t step into their purpose until I step into mine, when I choose not to break through, I am standing in someone else’s way too.
Anyone that pushes the boundaries of and attempts to break through the lines of their comfort zone, has come face to face with fear. Fear of failing, fear of succeeding, fear of what other people will say about them, fear of what other people think, and on and on and on. People that stand in their own way try to avoid feelings of fear at all cost and in doing so cheat themselves out of fulfilling their purpose. Fear, just like failure, can be an amazing catalyst for your next big move.
I hired my first coach back in 2002. Since then, there’s been about six months that I haven’t had a coach. Why? Because the objectivity and accountability you get from the right coach is priceless. It was my very first coach who helped me navigate a career move that took my salary from $43,000 a year to $64,000 a year in one job switch to a Fortune500 company. I was so impressed by the potential of coaching that I decided to become one. Now I help authors and speakers make more money with their message – or as I like to say, unleash their inner entrepreneur.
If you are standing in your own way, feel free to use the same three-pronged approach that I use. And if you are looking for a coach – I can help you there too. Kick your fear to the curb and schedule a complimentary Make More Money With Your Message strategy session today.
Tai Goodwin on a mission to help 10,000 women entrepreneurs create more joy and wealth in their life and business. She's the CEO of Aligned + Bankable and creator of the Bankable Brilliance Course. An intuitive business growth strategist and teacher, her specialty is helping clients create bankable business models that allow them to increase their impact and income without burning out. Tai is a former corporate trainer with a master's degree in instructional design and over 20 years of experience designing course, training programs, and certifications. She is also the author of Girlfriend, It's Your Time and founder of Brilliant Business Girlfriends.