Our words and our thoughts are powerful.
As visionary women we know that we manifest what we give attention to. What many of us have yet to learn is that avoidance creates voids and gaps in our path that keeps us from getting what we really want.
It’s why we can think positively about meeting our soul mate, and then nullify the strength of our desire because we are avoiding dealing with past hurts and wounds that put a brick wall around our hearts.
It’s why we can create vision boards about the profitable business we want to create, and then try to avoid the discomfort of making true changes to how we work and whom we serve so wind up brilliantly branded but broke.
It’s why we say we want more balance in our lives, and then avoid setting boundaries and making time for taking care of ourselves, ending up burned out, depressed, and eventually physically sick.
I’ve been down all three of these paths.
My latest lessons learned have been about the importance of boundaries and taking care of myself. My heart and vision are for changing the world by helping other visionary women become more confident in owning their brilliance and sharing their message with the world. I do this by sharing the lessons I have lived and teaching them how to authentically market their message. But I cannot do this if I am not setting boundaries that enable me to stay emotionally, physically, and spiritually healthy. (And if you don’t set boundaries and take care of yourself, you can’t successfully fulfill your purpose either.)
Setting an intention for more of what you want…
The first step towards better self-care is acknowledging what you need. My affirmation over the last few weeks as I prepare to launch Refresh for Coaches is I will do more of ____ and less of _____.
- On weekends: I will do more of laughing with my daughter and less of spending time on Facebook.
- In the mornings: I will do more of writing when my attention is focused and creativity high and less responding and wading through emails.
- Each workday: I will do more of eating lunch away from my workspace and less forgetting about lunch until I get a reminder in the form of a head ache.
These simple changes are helping me set better boundaries and enjoy my life and work. I’m also being a better role model to my daughter – something super high on my priority values list.
My clients know I believe the lessons we live have meaning not just for us, but those we are meant to serve. They also know that I practice what I preach. As I begin working on better self-care, I am inviting other coaches and practitioners to join me and sign up for Refresh: 31 Days of Self-care for Coaches. It’s a daily email for 31 days with ideas on how you can refresh yourself. It starts August 1, but you can sign up anytime and the sequence will start in the beginning (Don’t you love email autoresponders!).