I almost didn’t go to Costa Rica last month.
I was excited about the trip, but super worried about being too fat to buckle the seat belt on the plane. The embarrassment of having to ask for an extender was something I didn’t want to face. While I’d gotten away with an unfastened seat belt on my last four flights, I didn’t think I could get away with it again.
And then there was the swimming. You don’t go to a place like Costa Rica and not enjoy the beach or the pool. But with lipedema and lymphedema in both legs, I’ve gotten very self-conscious about how swollen my legs are. There was no way I was getting into a swimsuit.
This wasn’t the first time that my weight has come up when there was something I wanted to pursue. Before this, I was too fat to get on a stage in front of 1,000 people. And before that I was too fat to be on camera, even though I really wanted to be a co-host on a local cable show.
Now some of you might be thinking, “why don’t you just lose the weight?” (even if you are too polite to ever say that out loud.) Trust me I am working on it – but it ain’t that simple and it ain’t going to happen overnight. So while I am working on it, does that mean I have to wait to have what I want or be who I want?
As Sophia said in the Color Purple, “HELL NO!”
I took the stage in front a 1,000 strangers at Ignite Minneapolis and rocked it.
I flew to Costa Rica AND the seat belts fit just fine on Delta. (It turns out that Southwest, which I’d been flying just has smaller seat belts – who knew?)
While in Costa Rica, I waded in the ocean and had business conversations in the pool! Did you know there’s such a thing as swim pants for women?
And most recently, I was invited to be a co-host on the local cable talkshow I’d been a guest on 4 years ago. And guess what? I weigh about 40 pounds more than I did back then.
I could have allowed my weight to make me wait. When I think about the value of the experiences it would have cost me, it would not have been worth it.
What are you waiting for? What default roadblocks jump into your mind as reasons for not being able to have or be what you want?
Maybe what’s keeping you from showing up isn’t your weight. Maybe what comes up for you is that you are too old, too young, too black, too brown, too white, not a man… Or maybe it’s that your teeth are too crooked, you have too many kids, you don’t have a degree, you need to keep your day job, you don’t know the right people, you don’t have the right support, you don’t have that kind of money….
This list could go on and on and on IF WE LET IT. IF YOU LET IT.
Whatever your default roadblock story is, you can change it. We get to be the writer, editor, publisher, and producer of our stories. And we have the right to erase words and stories that other people have placed on us that don’t serve who we want to become.
When we show up in our brilliance, we have tremendous opportunity to lead with our light and inspire transformation. But if we hide, if we don’t show up, we cheat ourselves and the people we are called to serve.
Imagine…How might your visibility change if you lost the wait and showed up right now as you are? How might your business change? How might your life change? Who might you be?
I love working with my clients to help them answer these questions. If this is the kind of support you need in your life right now, I take on a small number of one-on-one clients. Schedule a call to see if I am the right person for you and your business.
Tai Goodwin on a mission to help 10,000 women entrepreneurs create more joy and wealth in their life and business. She's the CEO of Aligned + Bankable and creator of the Bankable Brilliance Course. An intuitive business growth strategist and teacher, her specialty is helping clients create bankable business models that allow them to increase their impact and income without burning out. Tai is a former corporate trainer with a master's degree in instructional design and over 20 years of experience designing course, training programs, and certifications. She is also the author of Girlfriend, It's Your Time and founder of Brilliant Business Girlfriends.