Stop Waiting for People to Discover Your Brilliance
My Know Better Do Better Moment
In my journey towards owning my brilliance, there were two reasons it felt more comfortable to wait for people to invite or discover me: ego and a lack of confidence.
My ego said: “You want them to come after you, seek you out. That means you have the upper hand.” But that’s like really wanting to work for a company, seeing they have an opening, and instead of applying you wait for them to discover your resume and call you. Good luck with that approach. Get over yourself and make the first move. Or you’ll sadly see someone else walk with the speaking gig or the client.
When I first started my business though, it wasn’t my ego but a lack of confidence that taunted me into keeping quiet. You might know better, bet I misguidedly assumed that since other people were getting opportunities, that people were seeking them out. After observing and asking questions, I uncovered that there were very few randomly chosen people that got put into the spotlight by sheer accident or coincidence. That one realization was key to building confidence that enabled me to start speaking up and asking for what I wanted.
If You Want It: Ask For It
Ask by Being Highly Visibility
- Back in 2009 one of my articles was published on Forbes.com. How did it happen: I found a site that was looking for guest bloggers. The link at the top simply said, submit your article. So I did. About a month later I was notified that my post was picked up by Forbes.
Ask by Building Relationships + Making Requests
- A few years later I wanted to get an article published on the Huffington Post. I think I submitted two separate articles – neither one of them was picked up. I finally got over my need to be invited and asked a question. I asked a colleague how she got to write for the Huffington Post. She made an email introduction and within one week of that conversation I was a regular contributor to the Huffington Post.
Don’t Ask – Create the Opportunity You Want
- Back in 2013, I saw people talking about how they had been nominated as a StartUp Nation Top 100 Home-Based Business. I could have waited for someone to nominate me. But when I saw that you could nominate yourself – I did. And I made it to the Top 100 list.